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Kids not witnesses, they are victims we don’t talk about I grew up living with domestic violence. So did my mom. So did her mom. So did 40 million other adults in the U.S. So I asked some of them, “In your life, can you remember a time when do...

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Four steps to becoming an advocate for domestic violence survivors You’ve survived a waking nightmare. And now that you’ve emerged a free person, you have a desire to help others who may be still living nightmares. Perhaps you want to simply raise awa...

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Recognizing and treating seasonal affective disorder After the holidays end, things may no longer seem merry and bright. Without the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, the influx of family and the near-constant sugar high from all those gingerbread ...

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Law professor and DV survivor says there are at least 50 reasons a survivor may not be able to leave an abuser Sarah Buel, JD, clinical professor of law at Arizona State University, has worked for more than 30 years with domestic violence survivors and th...

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What to do when your abuser tries to turn your children against you Abuse is multifaceted. An abuser will use whatever tactics he or she can to hurt you physically, emotionally, psychologically, sexually. Sometimes what hurts the most is a form of emotion...

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What to do as a bystander to best support them It’s easy for someone who’s never been in a relationship with an abusive partner to say, “If anyone ever abused me, I’d leave and never look back.” It’s the logical response and one we all hope we...

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Federal loophole allows convicted abusers to possess firearms Dating partners, not spouses or ex-spouses, are responsible for the majority of intimate partner homicides. What is important about this fact, aside from the devastating reality that women are ...

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Fleeing abuse with adolescents and teenagers has unique challenges Escaping domestic violence when you have children is always difficult. Sometimes, there are certain challenges you’ll need to plan for if your children are adolescents or teenagers. Here...

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Why doesn’t she just leave? A DV survivor gives possible reasons for staying Her son was only 2 ½ when Sarah Buel, JD, clinical professor of law at Arizona State University, left her abusive husband. One day, before leaving, she saw her son slap his st...

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Why parents shouldn’t worry about nurturing children too much after escaping domestic violence Leaving an abusive partner brings with it a range of emotions, from relief to anxiety. For the victimized parent, there can also be a hefty dose of guilt. The...

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